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Therapists Need Support Too

6/7/2023

 
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Therapists Need Support Too

Written by ​Christina Bieche, MSEd, LCPC, NCC

As a practicing therapist, I have learned over the years that it isn’t necessarily about what we know, but more about who we are. That very piece of knowledge…who we are…not only inspires me and drives my passion, but also is exactly what I strive to include in everything I do in my current practice. 

Question is…how do we get there?

Well, in my experience, it is the willingness of the therapist to seek support when needed, to do the inner work, to explore their limits/biases/fears, and to process personal traumas in order to remain present centered during work with clients. The self-awareness that comes from our own inner work is the key to laying a strong foundation for an incredible therapeutic relationship. 

“The essence of working with another person is to be present as a living being. And that is lucky, because if we had to be smart, or good, or mature, or wise, then we would probably be in trouble. But, what matters is not that. What matters is to be a human being with another human being, to recognize the other person as another being in there." —Gene Gendlin

Keeping in mind, therapists are human too…living everyday lives like our clients, experiencing ups and downs, raising children, maintaining responsibilities, managing stressors, living healthy lifestyles, and dealing with unexpected traumatic events of our own. We do all of this simultaneously while caring for others. And if we aren’t mindful about maintaining balance as well as our own self-care needs, it will eventually lead to burnout and/or challenges in remaining present with our clients during session. Which is why we absolutely must pay attention to our own support needs and not hesitate to reach out for guidance when needed. 

I would also like to pass on a few tips for therapists, especially those working with trauma clients, that were shared with me when completing an online training. These tips come from Guy Macpherson, PhD and his work with The Trauma Therapist Project.
  1. Breathe and relax: Simple? Yes. However, its effects cannot be overstated. It helps increase our level of awareness and thus our ability to more ably adjust and shift with regards to interventions if need be.
  2. Remember the client in front of us is a person...with feelings, emotions, needs, wants, desires, and who, if not now, then at one time, has laughed and still needs love and connection.
  3. Listen more than you talk.
  4. Help the client explore their strengths, what excites them, and those moments in their lives during which they felt empowered. Then help them solidify that feeling of empowerment by asking them to reside in that feeling and then linking it to a thought, emotion or action.
  5. Check your own issues at the door and be conscious of whose problems you’re working on in the session, yours or the client’s: this refers back to #1.
  6. Great things to say or ask: What do you notice happening in your body? Notice (without verbalizing) what happens next? (when asking the client to respond to a question, or after the client has made a statement, or after asking the client to reflect on a feeling).
  7. Take off your clinical hat and be you: I know this is a tough one, but I was once advised that it was okay to remove my clinical hat as it often helps to bridge the chasm between us and our clients. Try it. It’s freeing and it helps us engage more effectively.
  8. Notice where the client is along the often-blurred healing continuum of stabilization, processing, and integration and as a result, what the client needs.
  9. Leave your own agenda at the door: This takes practice, sometimes feels as if we’re without our tool-kit, but ultimately enables us to engage more genuinely as we are less wedded to our ideas of what we should be doing. It is important for us to remember that our sessions are not solely a platform for us as therapists to highlight our newest interventions.
  10. When you’re stuck, review numbers 1-9.

If you are interested in counseling or Therapy for Therapists, call OakHeart at 630-570-0050 or 779-201-6440 or email us at [email protected]. We have counselors, psychologists, and social workers available to help you at one of our locations in North Aurora, IL, Sycamore, IL, and/or via Telehealth Online Therapy Services serving Kane County, DeKalb County, Dupage County, and beyond.

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  • Home
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      • Health Anxiety
      • Specific Phobias
    • Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
    • Eating Disorders
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    • Therapy for Therapists
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    • Vanessa Osmer
    • Kat Harris
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